The Child Proclaims the Parent

 

“Let your light shine before men that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.”

—Matthew 5:16

When people observe a male child, we often hear them remark, “He looks so much like his father.” Within a family, we can see, even more closely, the presence of family resemblances. “Aunt Roberta’s hands remind me of Grandma’s.” Or, “I see that Joey is losing his hair at just about the same age as his father did.”

During my years as an elementary and middle school teacher, I heard the comment after colleagues met parents at conference time: “Well, the acorn doesn’t fall far from the tree!” Our children do not only carry the physical characteristics of their parents. They also often carry the personality traits and life styles, as well.

The sentence from Jesus’ “Sermon on the Mount,” stated at the beginning of this blog post, speaks to us in a similar vein. When people see our good deeds, they shouldn’t praise us, but rather they should praise our Heavenly Father.

Do we often think of the loving Creator-Sustainer God when we see His good works in the people that we know? Do we cause people to pause and consider our own behavior, as though Christ Himself is living His life in us and through us?

Dr. D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones puts it this way:¹

The child tells us a great deal about his parents, does he not? The child not merely tells us things about himself, he tells us much more about his parents. As you watch the behavior of a child you are really learning a great deal about the discipline, or lack of it, at home. The child proclaims the parent.

In referring to Matthew 5:43-45, Jesus speaks about loving our enemies, blessing those that curse us, doing good to those who despitefully use us and persecute us. Why should we do all these things? We do these things that we may be children of our Father who is in heaven.

Again, Dr. Lloyd-Jones writes:²

That is why we have to do it, that we may be like our Father, that we may proclaim the family to which we belong… So the next time you are in doubt about some course of action, whether you should do a certain thing or not, do not spend your time arguing with someone as to whether it is right or wrong, simply ask, “Is that sort of thing worthy of my Father’s son [or daughter]? Is it consistent with the family to which I belong, the Father who has put His own name on me and whom I represent among men?”

Parents hope for their children to represent the family well, to make them proud, to have others observe what the years of training, disciplining, and loving have produced. In the same way, our Heavenly Father looks at us and desires that we represent the family into which He has placed us. Out of sheer gratitude, we should apply ourselves to look like Him!

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1 Lloyd-Jones, D. Martyn. God’s Way of Reconciliation. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Baker Book House, 1972. p. 334.

2 Ibid.